Under uncertainty, do you pursue or withdraw?
What it argues
Attachment anxiety and avoidance are measurable dimensions, not types; the ECR-R is the standard instrument. They predict how you behave when a relationship is uncertain, pursuit or withdrawal, and they are stable but not fixed.
The probe
Score the ECR-R. Recall your last three conflicts and check which dimension moved first.
The source
An Item Response Theory Analysis of Self-Report Measures of Adult Attachment, JPSP 78 — R. Chris Fraley, Phillip Shaver and Kelly Brennan, 2000. The link goes to the text or to a catalogue record for it, not to a summary. This one is a catalogue record: the entry gives you the question and the probe, not the argument in the author's words.
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